Why Bare Your Soul?

For the most part, they were crazy kids. They met that first week of school in August. He says they were “trolling for guys,” she says they were exploring the campus and happened to pass by. It wasn’t until April that they started dating. She was 18, he was 21.

The girl he dated was much different than the woman he’s married to today. In her deepest moments of insecurity, she wonders if he’d still marry her today knowing she’s not nearly as “fun” as she was when they dated.

But she knows truth. For souls are bared across the years. Near 18 years of moments shared.

For they have gone down this road together. They have lived and grown up together. They have shared a life like no two before.

Vows made. Homes built. Babes born. Jobs started and jobs ended.

Money tight. Families in years of unexpected chaos and trauma.

Real time together luxury. Vacation alone near impossible with three kids.

Deepest dreams shared. Insecurities bared.

Frustrations at the end of a road. Tears no one else has seen. Stories no one else has heard.

But this love is a gift. This baring of souls is beautiful. For through these moments, through the years, there’s no replacement for two bearing life together, baring souls together. For to bare your soul is to bare your true self.

Those crazy kids knew not what they would bear, but were brave enough to bare. Are brave enough to bare.

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.  1 Corinthians 13:7


It’s Friday, which means it’s time for another Meet Me At This Moment for Five Minute Friday post! I spend the last hour of Thursday chatting it up with a group of authentic and inspiring Five Minute Friday bloggers on Twitter (#FiveMinuteFriday #fmfparty). One minute past midnight EST Friday, Lisa-Jo Baker gives us a single word prompt and we all write a blog post centered around that word. We write for five minutes, and five minutes only! In the wjords of Lisa, this is “unscripted. unedited. real.” You meet me at this moment in time…my thoughts and opinions, my joys and sorrows, my dilemmas and dreams. And I receive one of the greatest gifts ever…a regular outlet for processing and expressing my thoughts without constantly editing myself. This is my life, my perspective, unfiltered.

The word of the week is BARE. 

  1. […] years of to love and to cherish means a kiss every morning before work, no matter what. It’s dancing in the hallway when make-up runs and nipples sting from a blocked duct and a toddler dancing to the iPhone in our bed at 7 a.m. It’s committing to change for the […]

  2. Diane Minnella Marretta says:

    Beautiful, I almost feel like that was my husband n I because we married when I was 18 and he was 20, 2 years later our first son was born. We are still together 41 yrs later and yes, everyone has there ups n downs.

  3. What a beautiful journey you and your beloved have shared as you have bared your souls to each other…Congrats! What a wonderful tribute to both of you, your marriage, and God…thanks, Amy 🙂

  4. Tonya Salomons says:

    Oh I love this… And I love your movement from young love to steadfast love! What a beautiful story!

  5. Stacey Deutsch-Thornton says:

    I love love love this Amy! Brought tears to my eyes!

  6. Carol Femling says:

    Just beautiful, my beautiful daughter! You have a way with words. And yes, Monica, Seth seeks out Amy every morning to give her a kiss goodbye and every evening to give her a kiss hello. I know he would marry you again! Love you both, my sweet valentines. ::) Mom

  7. Cathie 'Hardy' Pearson says:

    Wow, is right…..another beautiful & touching blog Amy!

  8. Monica Anderson Palmer says:

    a treasure I stumbled upon is a husband seeking out his wife to kiss her goodbye each morning (or at east on Tuesday’s & Thursday’s 🙂 I think he’d marry you again a million times over!

  9. Tom Baunsgard says:

    Wow! Simply Beautiful!

  10. How true that we have to be BARE to our spouses, and how hard that can be! My husband and I are still learning, just two years into marriage. Thank you for sharing your experience.

  11. Amber says:

    This, so precious, so true: “Those crazy kids knew not what they would bear, but were brave enough to bare. Are brave enough to bare.” I like how you wove bear/bare together, for they often do go hand-in-hand. Thank you for the beautiful share!

    • Amy says:

      Thanks Amber! In my desire to stay within the 5 minute timeline, I realized I wrote “bear” instead of “bare” one time. Glad I caught it! Anyway, I like the words paired together as well, and thank you so much for your kind words!

  12. Tiffany Femling says:

    You always make my eyes water, when I read your blog! You are very blessed! XO!!!

  13. Julie Sunne says:

    Beautiful, Amy! You are both blessed to find such love in one another.

  14. Deborah L. W. Roszel says:

    Sounds like you’ve hit on a “secret” to marital success. We were made for fellowship, bare and beautiful. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I can confirm that with five children and 28 years being bare is still getting better!

    • Amy says:

      Dear Deborah: Wow, 5 kids and 28 years!! Thank you for stopping by and reading and best wishes to you and your family! I sure pray we’ve hit on a “secret” to marital success that will help us last through the years. I’m bound and determined to keep true to our commitment.

  15. Very sweet. Thank you for sharing. Nice tie-dye by the way!

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